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How do I get Coyote to go away? [Nov. 13th, 2011|08:20 pm]
Wisdom through different eyes


Coyote's been tailing me this week.

My primary totem is Badger. In the wild, coyotes and badgers are known to team up as hunting partners, the badger digging into a rodent burrow and the coyote keeping watch to catch it if it escapes through another exit hole.

Coyote's wisdom teaches how to make the best of things going wrong -- the wisdom of folly. Coyote brings bad luck that teaches and challenges one to become stronger through adversity. But when combined with Badger, like in the wild, what might otherwise be simply a string of bad luck can turn out worse, because Coyote feeds off of Badger's efforts. And so Coyote's presence does not teach or strengthen, and is not beneficial. Instead, it is parasitic, and forces Badger to either have his sustenance taken away, or become a user himself in order to trick Coyote and benefit from his destructive presence.

In real life, this has translated into losing $400 through no fault of my own and ending up with a negative bank balance to that effect, having my current sole source of income (my computer, which I use to do freelance art) crap out on me, and having my car disappear from where it was parked in downtown DC -- fortunately we figured out it had been impounded and not stolen, but that still landed myself and my friend stuck in the shittiest parts of the city for 4 hours until we could figure out where my car was and get it back.

I know Coyote's wisdom is "it could be worse, you could have lost more money, you could be put in jail by the IRS, you could have had part of the computer fail in a way that wiped the hard drive instead of just making it impossible to use, you could have had the $7000 worth of BORROWED camera equipment in your car stolen and not only ended up getting your best friend in trouble with his university but also have had to figure out how you could ever pay for the stolen equipment when you have an average monthly income you can't even buy groceries on."

I feel like I get it now, and I would very much like for Coyote to piss right the hell off so I can get back to being able to do my work and buy food.

Does anyone know any techniques for asking a spirit animal to please go away? Would smudging the area around my home perhaps work to create a protected space?

[User Picture]From: tillieyo
2011-11-14 01:29 am (UTC)
Maybe coyote is just there to guide you through these times, and is not directly responsible?
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[User Picture]From: joansies
2011-11-14 01:49 am (UTC)
I'd have to agree with tillieyo - Coyote may not be directly responsible for any of what has happened. Ultimately, you are the architect of your life, not Coyote, or Badger, or any other Totem or Spirit Guide. And to be perfectly frank, it wouldn't surprise me in the least if coyote sticks around because s/he knows it bothers you, and s/he finds it pretty funny that you're discomfited. So perhaps you should have a talk with Coyote and see what it is, precisely, that Coyote wants. Not that you'll necessarily get a straight answer, but I think talking to Coyote directly is probably the wiser course than simply assuming you know what s/he wants.

Also, DC is a confusing black hole. I hate DC.
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[User Picture]From: eldriwolf
2011-11-14 02:06 am (UTC)
*I* find that Mr Pointy-ears gets bored if I Laugh at his pranks.
"Wow! That was Good one! You really GOT me that time! I looked like such a fool!" (You must Really find it funny, though, 'Fake' makes it worse than not laughing at all.)
If I let them 'get to me' he pranks me Harder.

Say "Thank you!" make a nice offering (chicken is good)
(..make an offering to Badger, too...)

Point out, to your dear visitor, someone who 'needs' a little 'special attention' and might get 'Amusingly Annoyed'...

Good Luck
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From: brewingtrouble
2011-11-14 03:56 am (UTC)
IAWTACs. My friend, you hardly know Coyote at all, yet, and at this rate there's no way he'll leave you be. Let me put this plainly... he's like a half-loveable, half-horrible, scruffy, smelly, rude-and-crude uncle with the bizarre sense of humor sharing your house with you... and he won't go away and won't leave you alone until HE, not you, is done with being there. There are totems out there who can tell when they are not wanted, and will leave the person who doesn't welcome their wisdom. Coyote is not one of these. Oh, he CAN tell when he isn't wanted, but that attracts him. The more you try to push him away, the more he will find you amusing, and the closer he'll get until he's breathing down your neck every second of every day. It's pretty rare for him to just give up... you'll either learn his lessons, or he'll do his best to break you. The flipside to this, of course, is that Coyote is very powerful and he does have some advantages as a totem. Because of his persistence, he also will sometimes wind up teaching you the lessons you NEED (even if they're not necessarily the ones you WANT).

It's a LOT safer to just acknowledge his efforts and learn to laugh - REALLY laugh - with him... or better yet, actively try to seek him out and acknowledge him, even try to befriend him. Give him attention when he ISN'T looking for it. For the people he's selected for his "special attention", that acceptance and seeking out seems to make him more inclined to leave you be (paradoxical, I know, but he IS the Trickster). Learn the lessons he has to offer... and unless you happen to be a lifetime pet project of his for some reason, he will probably be satisfied with his work, and leave you alone.... at least for a while, until you start getting too comfortable.
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[User Picture]From: joansies
2011-11-14 04:51 am (UTC)
he's like a half-loveable, half-horrible, scruffy, smelly, rude-and-crude uncle with the bizarre sense of humor sharing your house with you... and he won't go away and won't leave you alone until HE, not you, is done with being there.

This is the best description I have ever read. I giggled. :D
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[User Picture]From: grondfic
2011-11-14 08:25 am (UTC)
Totally agree with the above.

Maybe you should try to speak to Coyote and ask Him why He's paying you special attention? It's a two-way process, y'know.

That said - sorry you've been having a shitty time. Have yourself a Badger-and-Coyote party to cheer yourself (and Them?) up.
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[User Picture]From: denaliyote
2011-11-15 12:45 am (UTC)

Don't Move! It'll SEE YOU!

Some of my research paints Coyote as the Absolute Worst Totem You Could Have(tm), because then none of your life will go right as planned again.

Me? I embrace the Coyote Path wholeheartedly. Because where some see disaster, I see change forced by needing to get out of my comfort zone. Where some see having to work through adversity, I see 'merely a setback.'

The faster you don't take it seriously and stop hating this 'drain' on your resources you call Coyote, the quicker it stops.

But a better question is, how do you know it's Coyote doing it to ya? Usually the Trickster can't resist taking credit, and there are other negative spirits that like to blame Coyote for things. ;)

Now if you want a recipe for disaster? Try Fox-Coyote. You will surely mean the learning of 'unending trouble' that way.

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