Maybe coyote is just there to guide you through these times, and is not directly responsible?
I'd have to agree with tillieyo - Coyote may not be directly responsible for any of what has happened. Ultimately, you are the architect of your life, not Coyote, or Badger, or any other Totem or Spirit Guide. And to be perfectly frank, it wouldn't surprise me in the least if coyote sticks around because s/he knows it bothers you, and s/he finds it pretty funny that you're discomfited. So perhaps you should have a talk with Coyote and see what it is, precisely, that Coyote wants. Not that you'll necessarily get a straight answer, but I think talking to Coyote directly is probably the wiser course than simply assuming you know what s/he wants.
Also, DC is a confusing black hole. I hate DC.
*I* find that Mr Pointy-ears gets bored if I Laugh at his pranks.
"Wow! That was Good one! You really GOT me that time! I looked like such a fool!" (You must Really find it funny, though, 'Fake' makes it worse than not laughing at all.)
If I let them 'get to me' he pranks me Harder.
Say "Thank you!" make a nice offering (chicken is good)
(..make an offering to Badger, too...)
Point out, to your dear visitor, someone who 'needs' a little 'special attention' and might get 'Amusingly Annoyed'...
IAWTACs. My friend, you hardly know Coyote at all, yet, and at this rate there's no way he'll leave you be. Let me put this plainly... he's like a half-loveable, half-horrible, scruffy, smelly, rude-and-crude uncle with the bizarre sense of humor sharing your house with you... and he won't go away and won't leave you alone until HE, not you, is done with being there. There are totems out there who can tell when they are not wanted, and will leave the person who doesn't welcome their wisdom. Coyote is not one of these. Oh, he CAN tell when he isn't wanted, but that attracts him. The more you try to push him away, the more he will find you amusing, and the closer he'll get until he's breathing down your neck every second of every day. It's pretty rare for him to just give up... you'll either learn his lessons, or he'll do his best to break you. The flipside to this, of course, is that Coyote is very powerful and he does have some advantages as a totem. Because of his persistence, he also will sometimes wind up teaching you the lessons you NEED (even if they're not necessarily the ones you WANT).
It's a LOT safer to just acknowledge his efforts and learn to laugh - REALLY laugh - with him... or better yet, actively try to seek him out and acknowledge him, even try to befriend him. Give him attention when he ISN'T looking for it. For the people he's selected for his "special attention", that acceptance and seeking out seems to make him more inclined to leave you be (paradoxical, I know, but he IS the Trickster). Learn the lessons he has to offer... and unless you happen to be a lifetime pet project of his for some reason, he will probably be satisfied with his work, and leave you alone.... at least for a while, until you start getting too comfortable.
he's like a half-loveable, half-horrible, scruffy, smelly, rude-and-crude uncle with the bizarre sense of humor sharing your house with you... and he won't go away and won't leave you alone until HE, not you, is done with being there.
This is the best description I have ever read. I giggled. :D
Totally agree with the above.
Maybe you should try to speak to Coyote and ask Him why He's paying you special attention? It's a two-way process, y'know.
That said - sorry you've been having a shitty time. Have yourself a Badger-and-Coyote party to cheer yourself (and Them?) up.
2011-11-15 12:45 am (UTC)
Don't Move! It'll SEE YOU!
Some of my research paints Coyote as the Absolute Worst Totem You Could Have(tm), because then none of your life will go right as planned again.
Me? I embrace the Coyote Path wholeheartedly. Because where some see disaster, I see change forced by needing to get out of my comfort zone. Where some see having to work through adversity, I see 'merely a setback.'
The faster you don't take it seriously and stop hating this 'drain' on your resources you call Coyote, the quicker it stops.
But a better question is, how do you know it's Coyote doing it to ya? Usually the Trickster can't resist taking credit, and there are other negative spirits that like to blame Coyote for things. ;)
Now if you want a recipe for disaster? Try Fox-Coyote. You will surely mean the learning of 'unending trouble' that way.